How Can Love Survive a Transgender Marriage?
“My Husband’s a Woman Now” author Leslie Hilburn Fabian, LCSW is our guest today on THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast with Judith M. Weigle, sharing her journey through meeting her husband Dr. David Fabian, orthopedic surgeon, marrying David, and then confronting David’s need to transition to female Deborah while Leslie considered her ability to remain in the marriage as a heterosexual woman. Leslie wanted to document her experiences as the spouse of a transgender person to give voice to those spouses confronting either the continuation of their marriage or a divorce, as the spouse of a transgender person is often overlooked. The focus is typically on the person transitioning and not on those closest to them. Loved ones of the transgender person have to somehow transition, too, in their thinking and acceptance of this major life change, their own identity if they are the spouse, and the ability for the children and extended family to have continued love beyond the gender transition. This will be controversial for some of you, and life-changing for others as you listen to Leslie’s story of her life commitment to her happiness and her spouse’s happiness, as well as self-love in the face of the hardest decision she’s ever made, to stay or leave the marriage.