The Amicable Divorce Expert Podcast

a podcast devoted to amicable divorces

Category: Mediation

Can Mediation Work for Everyone?

Can Mediation Work for Everyone? with our guest Colleen O’Neil, MSW, M.Ed, Mediation and Beyond, LLC, Mediator, Therapist, Life Coach, Educator and podcast host of Mediation and Beyond. We will discuss:

  • Domestic Violence .
  • When mediation isn’t the right choice, at least not now.
  • The court’s inadequacy in decisions regarding child abuse.
  • How to prepare for mediation.
  • How to know when you have the right financial settlement.

A core philosophy that Colleen will discuss is about change. “You don’t need to wait on someone else to change so that you can change yourself.” Coming from all of Colleen’s levels of expertise, she shows us that waiting for our spouses to change will not serve our purposes if we feel that change is needed in order for the relationship to move forward. When we see that change is needed, we need to change. Or, when we feel that we need to make changes within our relationship role, waiting is not in our best interest.

There’s no excuse for child abuse. There is no masking the fact that if a parent is abusing their child, a change needs to take place. But is the court the best place to make that change? Are Judges in the position to understand the scope of the abuse, the existence of the abuse, and provide a remedy for the abuse?

Biography of Colleen O’Neil, MSW, M.Ed, Divorce Mediator, Life Coach, Relationship Expert

Colleen O’Neil brings remarkable credentials and impeccable skill sets in assisting others with creating exceptional agreements. Colleen worked for the Cambridge, MA district Attorney’s office assisting victims of violence, homicide, rape, and child abuse. She also trained law enforcement and professionals in victim services, empowering them to understand how to help victims.

Colleen is a board member of Shared Parenting Council of Connecticut working hard to improve state laws and policies governing divorce, parenting and family court processes.

O’Neil maintains a private mediation and divorce coaching practice in Westport, CT and will also travel to clients. Mediation and Beyon, LLC @mediation_and_beyond (IG) Colleen P. O’Neil (FB) Colleen O’Neil (LinkedIn) Mediation and Beyond (YouTube)

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Mediators and Therapists Share Tips for Success in our Behind the Divorce Curtain series

Mediator & Psychotherapist Dr. Kathy Memel, Victoria Goldfarb, Esq., LMFT, Mediator; Therapist & Mediator Michele Hahn; and Mediator Marvin Whistler discuss their challenges in working with spouses in a divorce and what their clients can do to have a more successful and amicable divorce settlement process.

Men‘s Divorce Coach, John Nachlinger, Esq., Mediator

Men have different fears than women in divorce, specifically the loss of their children and the continuing cost of spousal support or alimony, to the extent that their lives may be ruined. John Nachlinger addresses all of their fears and speaks the language of men so that men confidently proceed with divorce with calm confidence and continued responsibility.

Winning at Divorce Mediation; It’s Different Than You Think

I will detail how to negotiate a divorce settlement with power and control over your destiny, your independence, and your self-worth and self-respect.

The Good Karma Divorce with Judge Michele F. Lawrence.

Judge Michele will discuss why she wrote the book and how she, as a former Family Law Judge, could see how divorce litigants could have a completely different, and more positive, divorce experience if they could follow another path towards divorce, a path rooted in acceptance, understanding, empathy, compassion, and forgiveness, while using divorce to reframe and change their lives for a better outcome than they could have ever imagined.

Steps to Change the Settlement Power Dynamic

I will explain and provide examples of what an uneven power dynamic looks like in a divorce settlement discussion.  I will explain various reasons why the power dynamic exists.  And I will provide ways to change the uneven power dynamic to an even balance of power for the best results for both spouses.

8 Ways to Ruin a Good Mediation

You will learn the most common ways to derail a simple and potentially good mediation, along with the 8 remedies to reverse course and succeed. Part of the mistakes people make are behavioral by not understanding how to communicate in a negotiation, and part of the mistakes come from preparation.  You will learn all of the most common mistakes and how to reverse course to end up amicable and successful.